Its the wee hours of the morning, I'm not sleeping and the head's ticking.

The idea of taking after the person who brought you up, who spent the most time with you, who taught you life values, have largely been wrongly conceived. Values can be taught, be drilled/forced into one's head, but they do not really get instilled until he chooses to and permits it. Of course, there is always the other option. The opposite one. Where values of a different kind, usually unpopular and often scorned upon, precedes. There could be a thousand and one explanations, but an easy no brainer one would be a member with the most authority displaying the latter values and the former, possessed by the second in command. Yes, the devil one can precede, even when the angel has accompanied you throughout your life. It's YOU who decide WHO you wanna be, WHAT you become, WHENever you're ready.